And So, We're Done (For Now)
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lythandra and myself, the short-term things are done and life now begins to settle into the new "normal," whatever that ends up being.
I'm very tired; I've spent way too much time in cars the past ten days and done entirely too much just getting through things so they'll be done. There's all sorts of ancillary things going on that are not directly related to Sandy, but are still connected. Sawmurrrmaiyd and praeriedog for the first time in (mumble) years this weekend and got to hang out a bit, which was nice. Saw G'Ma (Sandy's mother) for what may very well be the last time, which is another painful parting. She lives in Florida and is not likely to come back up to Virginia... but Laurie and I are not likely to go down there, either. We're going to have to start sending her letters or something.
A major chunk of our routine is all discombobulated now; going over for cards/games w/ Sandy on Saturday nights has been one of our staples for years. I don't know if we're going to take up the mantle of hosts for those nights, if Mary will start joining those on a regular basis, or what.
There's a lot of dealing with stuff that still needs to be done, mostly byhantamouse, but as the sort of "designated grown-ups" of the bunch, Laurie and I will probably be doing a lot of the prompting. Going through papers, finding out things like beneficiary status on policies, all that jazz, are all things that are way too annoying if you don't have social anxiety disorder. :P But they're all things that will need to be done in order for Lee and Jamie to stay in that house, which is kind of important.
But, even though some of that stuff may need dealing with in the next week or two, it doesn't need to be dealt with tonight. So I've done all the thinking I'm going to for now. I intend to spend the rest of the evening zoning out. G'nite. :)
-TG
lythandra and myself, the short-term things are done and life now begins to settle into the new "normal," whatever that ends up being.I'm very tired; I've spent way too much time in cars the past ten days and done entirely too much just getting through things so they'll be done. There's all sorts of ancillary things going on that are not directly related to Sandy, but are still connected. Saw
murrrmaiyd and praeriedog for the first time in (mumble) years this weekend and got to hang out a bit, which was nice. Saw G'Ma (Sandy's mother) for what may very well be the last time, which is another painful parting. She lives in Florida and is not likely to come back up to Virginia... but Laurie and I are not likely to go down there, either. We're going to have to start sending her letters or something.A major chunk of our routine is all discombobulated now; going over for cards/games w/ Sandy on Saturday nights has been one of our staples for years. I don't know if we're going to take up the mantle of hosts for those nights, if Mary will start joining those on a regular basis, or what.
There's a lot of dealing with stuff that still needs to be done, mostly by
hantamouse, but as the sort of "designated grown-ups" of the bunch, Laurie and I will probably be doing a lot of the prompting. Going through papers, finding out things like beneficiary status on policies, all that jazz, are all things that are way too annoying if you don't have social anxiety disorder. :P But they're all things that will need to be done in order for Lee and Jamie to stay in that house, which is kind of important.But, even though some of that stuff may need dealing with in the next week or two, it doesn't need to be dealt with tonight. So I've done all the thinking I'm going to for now. I intend to spend the rest of the evening zoning out. G'nite. :)
-TG
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Date: 2012-05-14 09:59 pm (UTC)*hug*
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Date: 2012-05-14 11:08 pm (UTC)I appreciate that. I've been in Florida for more years than I like to think about and it's distanced me a bit. But coming to the funeral and spending time with everyone again has brought a lot of old feelings to the surface again. I've been thinking a lot about "What happens now?" I'm glad you're here to help.