Everyone fails that roll some number of times, and that's okay. It's just doing it constantly that makes it impossible to concentrate.
I once write a post about one of the reasons I hate the casual use of profanity, where I said that I thought of profanity as a huge "THIS IS REALLY UPSETTING SO I AM CURSING ABOUT IT" sign, because, you know, that's what it used to be. When people start using it constantly, it continually hits my "SOMEONE IS REALLY DANGEROUSLY UPSET DO SOMETHING!" button, and jacks up my stress level and makes me think I need to help or fix or stay away.
But then, people do it often enough, and I can no longer tell when they're really upset... or worse, I just assume they're in a state of perma-upset, and I give up on helping. I just stay away all the time.
That's what people need to be aware of when they're constantly dumping negative thoughts like that. They're training the people around them to treat them as the Boy/Girl Who Cried Wolf.
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Date: 2013-03-27 01:57 pm (UTC)I once write a post about one of the reasons I hate the casual use of profanity, where I said that I thought of profanity as a huge "THIS IS REALLY UPSETTING SO I AM CURSING ABOUT IT" sign, because, you know, that's what it used to be. When people start using it constantly, it continually hits my "SOMEONE IS REALLY DANGEROUSLY UPSET DO SOMETHING!" button, and jacks up my stress level and makes me think I need to help or fix or stay away.
But then, people do it often enough, and I can no longer tell when they're really upset... or worse, I just assume they're in a state of perma-upset, and I give up on helping. I just stay away all the time.
That's what people need to be aware of when they're constantly dumping negative thoughts like that. They're training the people around them to treat them as the Boy/Girl Who Cried Wolf.